I think I belong in Piecing...

[Painter]

H and I are currently in a kind of holding pattern, but we had a brief talk last night that was interesting.

When I pull away, after we discuss separating or a future apart, or like now when H won't see the MC anymore, he seems to come after me to pull me back in again. H says he feels like the pressure is gone, like I let off, so he comes back in and reaches out to me. I told him that the reason I back off, is to protect myself emotionally, I turn off.

And that this is why many men get really surprised when a woman leaves, they thought things were great because she had stopped nagging and they were happier than ever, while she has actually shut down. He seemed very interested in this idea. I left him with it.