Sandi after listening to the others on here about the behavior of my wife and her push to make something happen for the separation my mind is racing about the OM being more and more likely. I have told myself that i believe her that there is not and couldnt really see when she would find the time, but i know if there is a will there is a way. I also want to believe that she is just really looking to be by herself as well. I know that i could probably resort to methods of finding out,cheeseless tunnels, but i am curious if it would help me detach more knowing there is something else going on other than what she is telling me. I am not sure if my feelings would still be the same towards her after all of the lying she has done.
On the topic of her seeing me going out and leaving her at home, i understand your point. I guess my reservation is this, I do not see her spending any quality time with the children, she just acts like she is too busy or is agitated with them. She spends hours getting ready to go places when she is with them. She will take them to the gym and leave them in child care while she is there. I do not want them suffering through this. this is why I am giving them all of my time. My D7 has already been making comments about W not doing things with them and she is always yelling and mean. she says she is always going with friends and if they ask her to do something she always says yes. these are not my words but a 7 year old. the other thing is if we go down the separation road and my daily contact with them is limited then i am not sure how i will handle that.
Thank you all for your thoughts and time. I will check in on all of your threads and Sandi i will be reading everything you have said over and over.
thanks
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
