Time to make changes

[joss]

HI Ghost56. Yes, I stayed in the same house as H for 4.5 years. It took my that long to feel strong enough to ask him to leave and now I know I should have done it in the beginning. However, I was a much weaker person then - much more dependant than I am now. I don't ask H for ANYTHING anymore. If the computer is broken I go to a shop or ask someone else. I DON'T GO TO HIM. I feel a lot more empowered and in control of myself and my emotions because I don't have the constant reminder of what he has done to this family. I actually feel very sorry for him for all that he's lost; everything that he held dear to him has been taken away from him. But I know that he has taken each and every step to get to the sh!t he's in now. Still, he has the OWs support (haha) for what that's worth!!!

I saw him last night as he babysat the kids while I worked. I came home, said hi and went to do the washing up in the kitchen. I feel he is a complete stranger to me. I:m not sure if that's just what complet e detatchment is, or if I actually don't like him anymore.Whatever it is, I feel much more like the me that I used to know.

I hope you manage to reach this stage. It takes a whole lot of time, and at he end of the day, if one changes nothing, nothing will change!

You'll know when you are at the point of wanting to be free. It was incredibly clear to me. And I have never wavered in that decision.

take care of you. Will catch up on your sitch.x

Joss