Sho, I keep pulling for you man, but this screams of $uck. I like the no contact letter, better yet from her attorney, and if she won't do that it's a serious red flag. While we have attorneys brought up, suggest that the only way you'd feel comfortable moving forward is with a post-nup that basically lines up how the D decree will read should it come to that. It would lean in your favor of course, but if she's truly committed to fixing things, she should have no trouble with that concept. However, you can't get a no contact letter out of her, so the post-nup reaction is probably a foregone conclusion.
I called my XW's first AP, left him a firm but polite message that he would want to call me back and not mention it to my now XW. Oh, they freaked and she was pi$$ed. She wanted me to leave him out of it (Me!). DB1 was married with 2 daughters.
And realize there are apps designed to hide messages using the data feature instead of standard phone texts. Ask me how I know.
There's a saying about having your cake and eating it too. She only shows effort when she's losing cake. Right now she's eating cake and has Sho too.
You are not crazy. You laid out your boundaries honestly and now you want to stick to them. Good luck buddy. May the Starsky be with you.
Me: 37, W: 36 S6, S3 M: 8 T:11 Discovered 1st A: 9/3/14 Began DB: 9/20/14 W "ended" 1st A repeatedly Discovered at least 3 more A's, filed 10/29/14
