Time to let go......how?

[duke]

I know the main advice here is to GAL and Detach so we are not so hurt by everything but i know the ultimate goal for many of us is to reconcile. seems counterproductive and i know it wont make sense either.I am willing to move forward with the S and have us live separately but i am doing in hope of something changing after we are not in the same house. this is probably not what i am supposed to do, but something in my head is still telling me she will wake up one day and say "oh crap" what did i do.

Man I know what you mean. I keep thinking that she must have hit her head somewhere or its pre-menopause or she is depressed and its the drugs. I keep day dreaming and thinking that this is all just a bad dream. Sometimes I stop what I am doing and realize - holy crap this is actually happening.