Wow in 7 days you go from having a violent fight over a cigarrete to piecing your marriage?

Do you just want to push your agenda onto him?

I thought you said he is having a hard time dealing with the fight you had but you dont think his feelings are accurate?

Im reading alot about you in this but not much about him. Imo I think your rushing to fix the marriage without really doing the work to fix yourselves. I feel you will find your self right back here if you dont slow down, think and feel. Also this is about him as well. Give him the time to think and feel.

Can things really be forgotten and forgiven in a weeks time?

Married 1991
D 32 GD 12
D 30 GD 3
S 29
M 58
S 57
1st bomb 2008
2nd bomb 4/2015 same person
New bomb 09/24
I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.