Of course when I say " accept yourself as is and work on". I mean we should never accept self-loathing. That isn't a part of who we are. There are things everyone needs to work on about themselves. You could still just be and accept yourself for you are. Who you are is not how you beat yourself down. It's ok to try to improve on our " weaker" areas if it helps us love ourselves that much more.
Again, this is a gray are and not so black and white. helping yourself see things in the gray is a great self improvement. Because it does YOU a service.
What sunnyB said about relationships is so spot on. I've learned something in my M and from every one of my post D relationships. Finding someone who is just good enough for the sake of not dating around is something I've pulled myself from. I know it could be better than just good enough. And I honestly couldn't accept being so/so to someone. I've ended relationships on good notes. Took some valuable lessons. And now I'm experiencing what it's like to have more than that and wow. It's awesome. I'm not a "dater", I'm a relationship person. But really, I don't think m you need to worry about that now. NyQuil be shocked. Your attitude will change when you are truly ready to date
