I don't understand it either Az. I think that if they reach agreement in mediation, that may be the end. Outside of a few days to get everything officially signed, notarized, etc. But no idea; I'm sure it varies by location.

If that's the case, I agree that one last ditch attempt at R may be in order. Doesn't mean you can't continue trying even after D, but if you are reaching your own personal breaking point, not much left to lose. Personally, I consider myself done after D. I'm planning to file after a full year of S, then will be another 6 months until D final. If WW can't show some signs of wanting to save a 24-year R after 18 months apart, I give up. I may still have feelings even then, but will be taking active steps to move on by that point, including dating.


Me 47 W 42
T 24 yrs M 18 yrs
W living with OM
BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1)
BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out)
WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015.
Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.