After gym she came there for dinner with kids and a friend. I tried to be friendly but also not invade on space. I wanted to stay away, of course my children are there so I kept checking in on them. When they were finishing up I was done with work as well and S4 wanted to ride with me so we began walking towards the door as they were all getting up and wife makes a point to say goodbye like we were being rude for not saying goodbye.
That was a setup. She did it b/c of the friend who was watching how rude you were being to the poor little W.
Doing 180's does not mean caving to every thing she wants. She will play you like a toy. Staying home to keep the kids while she goes out? You won't score any brownie points by doing it. At this point and time, you could kill yourself trying to show her how unselfish you are......and she could not care less. I'm not saying to act like a selfish jerk, I'm just saying trying to prove it to her will do no good.
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tonight she will be going out with friends and these times are difficult for me while living in the same house
Yeah? Well how much does she get to see you go out while she stays home with the kids at night? Oh I know, you will refer back to what she said you always did in the past. That was the past. I promise you that staying home every night she goes out is not working to help you. She needs to see you going out just as much as she is going.
You had enough sense to know you couldn't leave your credit card in her hands. Would you do a 180 and give it back to her now? No! You just don't 180 some things.
Stay balanced in these things you are reading and learning.
Did you go back and read the link on detaching? Too many people slide over it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
