Confused and Unsure

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Hey brother, so great to hear from you. I read up on your sitch and I am sorry you are now joining me on the "I know too much" club, at least you didn't get there with the snooping and digging, it would drive you crazy.

My appointment with my IC went well, started working on some of the issues I mentioned before. He mentions that I have a fear of abandonment that extends from my childhood, and that what I need to do is just accept that my marriage is over and focus on myself (sounds familiar?) I have decided that I will stop snooping (easier said than done w/ my anxiety (thank you Mutatio, for pointing this out))

I still need to find how I can detach and refocus all of this excess energy on myself. I have been reading Azzork's goals post and I will be working on my goals. I am still overly available to my W and need to learn how I can lovingly detach, it is so hard, but what I have been doing hasn't been working...at all.

I hope to continue to hear from you my brother, and I hope you continue to focus on yourself and we can hopefully make it out of this in our ideal scenarios, if not, we are at least the best version of ourselves.