Sandi- quick update, I did not go to the wedding with her. Her brother came back to stay with us for a night, and I left the house to avoid contact with her. It made it awkward with her brother. I am not 100% that she is done talking to this guy (although she continues to say she is) my therapist agrees..so I am trying to be emotionally unavailable.
Based on your response and advice i continue to make big mistakes...I asked W to give me space, but when i do see her i continue to fight over the A, and if I'm honest I am attacking her. I need to do a better job of controlling emotions, but its so hard when you see this W you love, and then realize what she has been doing.
TBH i am not sure what i need to get over her affair. I don't want to be the guy that has to snoop, but when I see her on the phone, I always wonder if its the OM.
I need to stay positive, and focus on being a better man. Its hard when I feel like she should be working really hard to gain my trust, but its more like she continues to remind me of where I fell short as a husband.
