The comment your H made was to control you. Don't simply resist because that's churlish, but don't rush either, when you are good and ready, not before. Know that you have to do it, but at a time of your choosing is important.
If lawyers start bearing down on you (which I sincerely doubt given your timescale to get to this point) that's a bit different but until they do, take your time, do things for you first then set aside time, at a particular point in the future of your choosing, to go through the papers, in that way you'll have prepared yourself and it will be less of an arduous task and you will feel as if you are more in control than you do currently.
Your husband may well be thinking that if he can just get the D done, then he'll be able to move on. What he forgets is that it just legal paperwork, you are still in his head and always will be, no matter what he does to try to remove you.
He may, one day realise this, but you can't wait around hoping he does. Keep on with the GAL and detaching activities and if he does work it out that's great, but you'll be able to choose whether to start a new R with him or continue on without him.
It sounds tough I know but that is where you are heading if you keep on doing what you are doing and it's the right place for you to be.
He's the one who has done you wrong and it's your choice whether to forgive him IF you get the opportunity and IF you don't that's OK too as either way you will be a new, all improved, super attractive beckyb that the right man won't be able to resist.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
