Where is that little insecure (OM) monkey now and what's he up to? LOL. I couldn't be with a man that insecure. But, then again, I am a little (small) girl and I really like men. I like them strong and tall and manly. That's just me, I guess. It makes me feel safe to be with a big, confident male.
Quote: Me "W, It doesn't need to be anything more than that." W "Um, Ok." And she just laid back, closed her eyes and relaxed while I massaged her feet.
This could have turned out to be a bad sitch and you turned it around quite well. My H often backs away from my touch, and I let him. Then it's awkward. I wonder what would happen if I were to handle it like this. Good DBing, Renew.
Still, I think you should back away from it sometimes so she doesn't feel violated?
Maybe there is a lot to the feeling insecure in your R and about her feelings. She isn't sure what she wants. Let's pay attention to the pattern here OK?
Last time she got weird about you touching her, had you two just spent a lot of QT together?
Maybe it was the QT (her LL, isn't it?) that made her feel very close to you and opened up her emotions to an uncomfortable level. Then, when you followed up with PT, something she is **sometimes** comfortable with, her emotional balance is upset.
In other words, she was feeling emotionally vulnerable and your PT pushed her beyond her limits.
I'm interested in your response. When you went into her bedroom that day and she snapped at you, she had obviously just woken up. But the night before, had you spent QT together? Perhaps she had a dream about you. Or maybe just cranky.
