Rottzilla, Anita, Rj2, Halo, Thank you all for your support and encouragement!!
Quote: if she didn't even though you are letting her stay in the house, she would already be moved in with OM by now
Just to clarify, although I think your point is relatively unchanged by this, the sep papers we signed let her buy me out of the house, so its her house right now, and she is letting me live there. Nonetheless, she could easily ask me to move out, she could easily spend every night at OM's, and she chooses not to. I very much appreciate this, especially considering W likes to say that actions speak louder than words.
Quote: I think her R with OM is fading
I certainly hope so!
Update...
W was home Monday night. I've been working a TON of hours at the office lately (and still can't seem to keep up with all the work we have...) but my back is healing quickly, I'm still managing to keep up wih basic chores around the house, and make time for W when she is home. I had dinner ready when she got home. She'd just gotten back from the gym and had to change into some dry clothes. She told me OM was reading an article about B-list men dating A-list women, and was saying how he is a B-list man dating an A-list woman. W laughs a little, rolling her eyes, and says, "Oh great, more insecurity." I tell her I saw a similar article recently in another magazine and we laugh.
I'd rented "Something's Gotta Give" over the weekend but hadn't watched it yet, and so I had it ready to play when she came in to eat. She chose to watch it with me--which I was grateful for because (a) since December she's been generally unwilling to watch movies with me, and (b) she was actually supposed to watch the same movie with OM recently, but they saw something else and we're going to see this one later. We both liked the movie, and had a fun time watching it. I rubbed her back for a little while during the movie. I even gave her a lift-her-off-the-couch-hug at one point we while we were laughing really hard at a particular scene, and she just kept laughing hysterically and smiling the whole time.
After the movie I thanked her for watching it with me. She always seems a little "um, ok, whatever" when I thank her for spending time with me, but I remember reading in DR that it's good idea to thank your S when they do something you appreciate. Later she was just laying doen on the couch. I sat down at the other end of the couch and picked her feet up and layed them across my lap, and began massaging her feet.
She asked, "What are you doing?" I said "Does it hurt?" W "No my feet don't hurt" Me "No, does it hurt when I massage you feet?" W "Well, no." Me "Is it uncomfortable for you?" W "Well, yeah, a little." Me "Does it at least feel a little good? W "Definitely, for my feet." Me "W, It doesn't need to be anything more than that." W "Um, Ok." And she just laid back, closed her eyes and relaxed while I massaged her feet.
It was absolutely heavenly to spend an evening with her on the couch watching a movie. It's something I've been wanting to happen again for some time, I feel this is another very good babystep. I know I have to be patient, but there were many moments last night where I almost forgot everything else, and just felt like we were a couple, a great couple. I really hope she may, at least once in awhile, feel the same way.
Thanks again everyone, your support always brightens my day.
