Saturday our plan was to meet the bookstore/coffee shop at 11. My D was excited, she kept calling it family day... That was gut wrenching! I arrived early with the kids and grabbed smoothies while walking main st. When we approached the bookstore she was already there.
The entire visit was cordial, some jokes and musings while we grabbed a coffee and the kids picked out books. It wasn't all that comfortable but it was familiar and easy.
After the kids picked out books, we sat outside and talked about her disease. She got emotional a couple of times but never cried, I'm sure the kids helped her in that respect. I tried to speak less and ask more questions. I reinforced her stronger qualities through different validating sentences. Overall, I can tell she is hurting and is also more comfortable with me. At the end I put the car seats in her car, loaded in the munchkins and saw her pause by her door. I initiated a hug and said another validating sentences. Then left.
That was the first hug since Christmas.
I'm not sure exactly what to make out of all this. It's a lot to digest. I do know that she is fully living with her decision now and probably on some level feels alone and lonely.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
