Update after a long time

[shodan]

I would love some feedback from others if anyone has it. I am a bit torn to be honest. My wife is "trying" but she still is not obliging by my parameters. She needs to send the NC letter but would rather let it die on the vine. Am I crazy to think that this could work out without following the steps? Should I be patient and focus on me, being a leader, being a man? I know actions speak louder than words. OR should I move out b/c she has not done everything that I have asked? I am tempted to say "while I appreciate the changes you have made, seeing a therapist, giving me access to your phone and email, etc., this still does not work for me. I will be in a committed and honest relationship with or without you. At this point, I don't want to be in this relationship with you. I am moving out,..."

Any thoughts or advice?