[LoisB]

Bright,

You aren't desperate and you aren't a loser.

I was thinking about your situation. Matt moved to a lakeside community where life is a party each summer. I can't imagine going and spending time there, meeting his friends and seeing him in that environment. That would be a vacation in hell for me.

Can anyone tell me that the love can just disappear for good…? The person who was in love with you at one time, is now so indifferent and cold… Talking nice things about you, but has no feelings what so ever? Was it a true love? Or, just an experiment?

I've been struggling with this one too since the hearing. I know these are MY emotions and NOT THE REALITY.

Look at your facts. You aren't the only one he abandoned for this new life. He has hurt your son and your friends. In my case, Matt abandoned his kids, pets, home and all his stuff. A person in his right mind doesn't do that sort of thing. Something much deeper is going on and it has NOTHING to do with you.

You can't continue to subject yourself to his insanity and, especially, his crazy woman friend. Sounds like she is influencing him the way OW women do. She is a predator and her following you to the bathroom and such indicates a really sick person.

In my opinion, I think it's time to set some financial boundaries. Bright, you are a "BRIGHT" woman... you could find yourself another vacation home where you could actually relax and detox from all of this. He seems to be heading deeper into the tunnel for now.