When is kindness enough?

[Ripe]

And it's done, one day and twelve years after we got married on the 6 September 2003.
Yesterday night, after the dinner we told the kids.
I have never seen such suffering, pain, sadness and disorientation inflicted to my kids.
Friday I wrote I wish my STBXW all the happiness in the world, but I swear I will never forgive her for the pain she caused my kids yesterday.
Both cried for more than one hour, until we were able to calm them down.
Both grabbed me and said they wanted to stay with me, not with their mother.
I started crying but the mother was cold as ice.

This morning things were a bit calmer, S9 said "I will try to live like this". S7 said "I am not sad anymore." Apparently they have started accepting the divorce.
I will keep them under tight surveillance, especially because STBXW replied to S7 "You're not supposed to be sad, it's just a different way of living".
Of course they are entitled to their sadness. They should feel sad, their world was shattered to tiny shards. As S7 cried yesterday "I will never live this beautiful life ever again", referring to his family life.