Hi AJ- it is not only slow but none of it happens the way one would expect.

I am learning that some of the same advice follows: act as if, lower expectations and don't pressure at all.

The other thing that surprises me is that everything seems to come from left field. Just as you say, few steps forward, step back; rinse and repeat.

As far as I can see--and I live with him 24/7--there is no way to see what is coming down the pike. In general, there is just this herky-jerky like movement forward.

Gives me plenty of time to continue to make a better version of myself.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced