V, RD, Sotto and Dawn thank you being such stalwart posters for me. And Sotto I feel honoured you would use your limited hotel WiFi for the purpose.

V, I have wondered what OM has been told about me but I also don't really care because he doesn't know me. I'm going to choose to assume that he's probably a good guy because to be honest if some as attractive and smart as my XW was pursuing me like she did to him, then I'd have a hard time saying no.

I'm going for mature adult approach in all of this and doing my best to show this in interactions - with mixed success.

Sotto, SMH? That one has me stumped. On the height thing that was a long standing complaint together with how I couldn't just wrap her up in my frame to protect her (my XW is 5'9 and I'm only just taller)

And RD, thank you for the compliment. I'm not buying it but I appreciate the sentiment. I hope im at least my kids hero. I'm not always able to control my emotions, I was upset yesterday and it showed.

The introspection is important to me. If I have another failed relationship I don't want it to be because I repeated mistakes.

Thanks again


Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress