I suspect that H is engaged to OW

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Painter, hmmm, not sure what I would do, but i know it would drive me crazy until I knew for sure. This is the part of piecing/reconciling that would be hard. Getting past the broken trust created by infidelity. Granted, your H has his own trust issues to get past.

It seems if you are truly going to piece, your H needs to be ok with no contract and complete transparency. I see what you are doing, but you H should be doing whatever it takes to R. Seems like in man ways he only has to be 1/2 in.