"Sorry that it hurts, W/H." And then go about your business?
It sounds as though both of you have been lured into the trap of "I'm hurting/poor me" just so they can reject you. Don't give them the opportunity to lead you there.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but not offering is a 180 for each of you?
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
