I was surfing the net and came across this article on what women want in a man. I have also found a book my wife put together back in 2005 on 100 things she loves about me when we made "us" official.
I know I am not to think about getting back with wife or do things to step in that direction, but work on myself. That is what I am going to do given what my MIL pulled yesterday (calling the Police for no reason, Officer was troubled why MIL did that for no reason and mentioned sometimes third Parties make it harder to get back or make things worse for their own reasons).
I am going to build a plan of action for DB'ing as advised over a month ago. This will be beneficial in my growth in becoming the best Man and Daddy I can and will be.
We have been physically separated for about 6 weeks now and it's getting easier in terms of being a part from her. Partly b/c the women I am meeting in my somewhat limited GAL scene are making me feel good and better about myself. Of course I'm not sharing my details...I'm being friendly and that I'm glad to be out enjoying myself. I don't have any intention of getting together with any of them right now, but it's sure uplifting to hear them say "your a very, very Handsome Man, over and over again (it's been a while), or I heard about your sports days and accomplishments while you were younger, or I heard you run your own company and have been successful over the years". Anyway, I'll stop cause I'm making myself feel better. lol
*** Here's the exert of what the Woman told the Man after he asked her what she wanted in a Man:
I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man.
I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.
I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden.
I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.
I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.
I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.
I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy.
And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me.
God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself.
When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.
He said, 'You are asking a lot. She replied, "I'm worth a lot". ***
Now any advice in how to increase the chances of success in building a Plan of action on this is appreciated. In addition, If the women want to add to the above the is welcomed as well.
DB'ing is about learning and growth for each and every one of us. This forum is a God send blessing.
The future is unclear for many of us, but Miracles do happen and together our Army of one has become a force for Family and a better World for the next generations to come.
Cheers to our DB Family and those who work and fight to keep Families together!!!
