OK, that sounds like my H sometimes. I can see what she is doing. But still - HUH?!?
My H does that sometimes. If he wants a hug or cuddle time (things he does not view as intimate, but rather just friendly things) he will iniatiate it. If I do it first, he gets weird.
But, if he wants a massage or ML or anything, he hints like crazy. He still, to this day, (6 months) hasn't iniatiated ML even once. But, he has no problem making it clear to me by his actions that he is "in the mood."
Just yesterday, he kept complaining that his foot hurt. I ignored him, he continued. I finally asked if he wanted me to rub it, and he said "no thanks." Yet, if I had just done it, I am sure he would have been in heaven.
I *think* that it has something to do with *if I iniatiate the intimate contact, it wasn't his idea and therefore he relinquishes control of it. It's not *him* being intimate with me, it's me with him, and not of his own doing. But, if I *ask* if he wants intimate touch, now the ball is back in his court, and he *has* to say no in order to save face* After all, he doesn't *want* to be intimate with me, right?
