Rottzilla, Seattle, thanks. So far W's behavior is leaning a little towards the cold and detached side, not a lot, but enough to be noticeable. I almost sense a little bit of confusion too, but I can't get a good read on it. I figure I need to monitor a little longer and see where it leads.
Quote: How are you going to figure out how to detach while still making her aware that you are there for her emotionally?
See what I wrote on your thread about Gottman's communication bids. I'm leaning in the direction of letting her make the bids for interaction, and trying to make sure that when she does intiate interaction I'm completely emotionally available to her. I've also been going out and doing more things on my own. I've been avoiding inviting her along anymore.
I'd appreciate any advice on improving these techniques, or other possible techniques. There have only been a few opportunities for us to interact in the last few days so I figure this has to play out a little longer. I'm hoping she chooses to stay home a few nights this week.
I know this sounds really wierd, but I'm actually glad she asked me to handle the dry cleaning today because she was talking like she was going to take care of it herself the other day, and I reallly like being able to do things for her. While I'm getting better at appearing detached, I know I've got a ways to go to detach on the inside.
