I am logical too. So I get what needs to be done MOST of the time. However, actually following through with it is another story all together.
I bought "The 5 languages of love" today and am reading through it. It is helping me get that my wife's language wasn't verbal like me. So all the years of me telling her how pretty she was or how much i liked her cooking etc. Wasn't the love she needed.
I am finding it harder to detach while my wife and I share the house. She talks and acts like we are still together half the time and it kills me because I know that isnt the case. It make me hope more and i know that will only make it harder as she delves deeper into her WWness(?). I am trying to do it. I know I need to for my own sanity, but actually detaching is hard when she rubs on me or talks about our future with the kids.
I wish i could get into her head and actually trust i know what she is feeling. I know she is probably lying even to herself at this point.
