Fighting isn't the problem. Failing to make up is the problem. My W & I should have fought more. It was a failure to fight well and speak our minds, not frequency.
And your parents are a different generation. My DB coach points out that when MWD wrote DB, DBing really didn't take as long (5-6 sessions, and boom). Now, not so much. Different societal standards on D & M. And, I'd say on the plus side, women being more empowered to not put up with so much. Therapy & R skills haven't kept up with that, unfortunately. Think of yourself as part of the avant garde.
Hang in there. Your sitch has been showing some progress. You seem to be approaching friend stage, which is necessary to further change.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
