V- I post all that information for you and that's all I get.... ? Huh? I know im doing good with this DB but throw me a bone here im still listening . haha
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
V- I post all that information for you and that's all I get.... ? Huh? I know im doing good with this DB but throw me a bone here im still listening . haha
Seriously, it is too early to tell what this means, because this phase could likely be full of stops and goes. It really does matter what your H is really willing to do for your M, how he handles the end of the A (or even if he can stick to ending it). So, V's words with nothing added are probably the best help any of us could give you, & needed said without distraction.
That said, it is certainly better than the alternative. We just don't know what it means this early. You know we'll be here to help as you travel this path, and we are pulling for you.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
Thank you asitis.. of course your right .. I guess I just thought there might be some hidden insight that I was missing that might be broght to light. I have also considered this as just one more stone to cross on my path. I know its not a miracle cure for what ails him I am realistic too. It is the actions that I need to focus on and again not expecting things to be different. As I stated previously I know we are in for a long haul still. I also know my situation is lots better than where we were but not where I want to end up yet.
Practicing Patience is hard..
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
If we had the secret key to unlock the door, we'd get ourselves out & share. Sorry. You're doing the best you can, and that's pretty darned good.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
So friday night we had a date..dinner out..a walk outside by the water.. then home to separate houses. Was Fun, no relationship talking just enjoying the time spent together.
Sat .. had a mutual volunteer event we went separately, friends invited us over for a coctail on their porch after with some mutual friends.it was a gorgeous nite out.. H relayed a funny memory of us all at a party previously and he laughed quite hard at recalling the memory, well we all lughed but for me it was so nice to see him really laugh relaxed and enjoying himself again. I guess its been a while. We were there maybe two hours then home to seperate houses.
Tonight we went to a fair. Ate some delicious fattening fair food, watched some horse pulling , had some good conversation and fun. I actually asked him out tonight so I sent a txt after he dropped me off saying thank you for going out with me with a smiley face and he replied with a " thank you too ~ it was fun."
All in all I have no complaints. I get giddy and nervous getting ready for a date or if I know im going to be seeing him. I feel like a teenager again. I wondered today if he was feeling any of that or if its just the same ole for him? Not that it matters but it would be nice to think maybe its exciting for him too.
Again im not complaining I would take this situation of mine over many a situation.. but I miss him. I miss not having him home right now with me. I am crying right now and feel like a baby .. I havent cried for weeks not sure what this is about.
Maybe just plain tired of it all.
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
Well good morning folks..my H asked me over to his place for a sleepover. He had said he might like to cuddle a little bit and maybe share some "coffee". This was the thrid time he's asked so I accepted this time. I said to him I cant get you to admit that you miss me in so many words but youll invite me to cuddle? .. He said tonights not about talking. I didnt push. Ill accept some cuddle time as I miss that so. Another point being that he said.. we could text all night like we often do or you could come over for a cuddle and we can be asleep in less than two hours . He was right about that we were asleep by 1130 but when we text its been 1 or 2 am before going to sleep.
I am happy this am no feelings of regret so far. It was nice being together in that way. I know I may not see him for the next few days but thats ok as we have seen a bit of each other recently. Leave him wanting more is a familiar saying around here right.
Have a good day all!
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
