I basically have the same thought process about dating and DB'ing, for now anyway. The only issue with me is that I think I want to wait a year after we D. Since she still hasn't filed the paperwork that's been sitting on the dishwasher since......I don't even remember how long now....Its going to be 6 months(wait period with small children in house) after she files plus the year. So at at the moment that timer is 18 months and it hasn't even started ticking yet.

Obviously things will happen as they happen so no point in trying to work it out too much now, who knows how the future will play out and when we are ready or not. Hopefully when the moment comes we will just know.

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be