Zelda - Baby One More Time

[Vanilla]

Been there, done that. Turn up any time you like, collect some stuff,leave behind others. Have the t-shirt.

"I can turn up when I like, take what I want" My WH actually said that.

Sounds like your XWH is also saying "take care of my junk and I decide what is junk".

So I took all the stuff I could find, even empty envelopes and I packed it. All of it, put it in storage. "No need for you to visit my home WH. So leave me alone.make it happen".

Here is selection from a list: old garden chairs, empty picnic box, 10 bottles of water: 5 bottles of Chianti; half bottle of gin, open box of tooth picks, 52 cookery books, bandages, ear plugs, two old Xbox, broken telephone handset, TV, very old broken TV, box of old paperwork including used stamps and empty envelopes, broken mixed assortment of electrical equipment, 110 pairs of socks, 142 pairs of underpants (including holes), three dressing gowns with stains, duvet, 12 old pillows, unused pan set, cutlery (mixed assortment), broken can opener, tea bags, gravy strainer, mixed random car products, old children's toys, nappy bags, potty, broken car seat.......need I continue.

I wrapped everything very very carefully indeed, folded, tissue paper, foam protection bubble wrap lots of tape, items wiped, carefully protected, boxed, then in storage box. Or if clothes, folded, ironed, tissue paper, in suitcases or nap bags. Linens etc in plastic storage bags.

I treated every item as if it were the Crown Jewels.

Trust me, this WH got everything of his, half used soap, shaving creams, razor blades ( even the old ones.) I emptied every cupboard, drawer, attic space, garage cupboard. Methodically. There is nothing left, not even a screwdriver. I went to the pound store and got lots of plastic boxes to store food and cans, all of his non perishables that he says I never.bought him.

Why did I do this? Trust me it isn't passive aggressive, there are some valuable things for WH, memories, photographs etc. it isn't for me to decide what's good or not. This way no accusations, something's broken or damaged deliberately. This way no suggestion that I have not given WH everything of his. I don't decide he does. He doesn't get to say, there was a precious photo in an old envelope or any other thing. He got it all, any doubt I put it in his pile. It's only stuff.

New annoying strategy WH haunts the village pubs near the big house, I leave and go to my Brighton flat.

Complete NC, no texts, emails, calls, etc. he will move on very quickly as its a boring life.

Z it's coming to an end, this is the last hurrah, it's frustrating. It's also very humorous and obvious. my suggestion, have a belly laugh, if there isn't a storage locker full, box it and post it. If you have no address to a mutual friend who is willing for collection. Use lots of box tape, so it has to be taken away and not opened.

V