Disgusted Stay at Home Daddy

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Sorry to hear. As far as the what you can do, stay away from her. As far away as you can. If it was bad enough to cause S to call the cops, it was bad. Even if you don't agree w/ what she is doing, do not let it blow up in front of your S, and if you did grab her phone away from her without her permission, that can be seen as assault. Just so you are aware. Now you are on the cops' radar, and anything you do or she accuses you of carries more weight. So, stay away.

If you swap children, that needs to happen somewhere public where there are witnesses. Don't agree to do anything with her without that. Your L will give you this advice too.

BTW, most men have no idea how scary we are to women & children when we are mad. We are evolved to have body language & vocal signals that project threat to others. Think of our deep voices - made for growling and shouting. The increased mass, esp. in the upper body. Etc. You may not intend to be threatening, but I've worked with enough women to know just how scared anger in a man can make them, including anger from a man that knows he would never physically harm them. Doesn't matter. You limbic systems (the reptilian part of the brain wired for threat detection & protection) are in charge in those moments.

Good luck with this latest set back.