Rottzilla, Anita, Thanks for your posts. I've stopped initiating massages for now, and I'm staying out of her bedroom in the morning. It's a bummer for me to not be able to touch her, but it seems like the right move for now. I'll monitor and see how this goes.
W was home last night so we talked for awhile, had dinner, watched some TV...
--W and I were chatting about our activities this weekend (she's running a 10K on Sat OM signed her up for, I'm going to a Bday party for a friend on Sat). I wa asking about her availability in general so I could plan the rest of my weekend and she said half jokingly, "You're not very good at this separation stuff." I playfully replied I thought was doing fine, how was I not doing so well? She said she thought separation meant the spouses didn't hang out with each other, and I replied that I didn't think that was any fun at all. She just laughed and shook her head... hmm.
--I asked her if she could take care of refinancing our mortgage as soon as she could find the time, because my budget was a little tight from having to buy so many new clothes (weight loss). She said she would and asked if I wanted her to advance me any of my payout money. I said no, I was enjoying learning how to manage my money. That even though funds were tight, I would like to figure it out on my own.
--She had mentioned that OM's roomies keep a list to divvy up everyone's household duties. I immediately thought of Betsey's post from the other day about this sort of thing. I asked W why don't we do the same? W said, "well that's different, they're roomates," to which I replied, "well, arent' we kind of like roomates right now?" She wasn't sure how to reply. I started to talk about the all the different stuff that needs to done regularly, how I didn't know that I could handle all of it. She started to get little defensive that I had inferred that I was doing everything, defending herself by saying that she does laundry occasionally, adn that she cleaned the kitchen the other day. I bactracked and apologized. I said just think about it and let me know, I'm ok with the way things are for now... hmmmm.
--W and OM had bumped into someone we know at a restaurant. Said person saw W again at a later date and asked if she was dating that person and whther it was serious. W said she answered yes on both counts. GRRRRR.
--Later that night W and I were haning out on the sofa watching TV. I was really tired and kept dozing off. Each time she would wake up. The first couple of times she just leaned towards me and said something like "Boo!" startling me awake and us laughing. The third time she actually reached over and tickled me for a few seconds.
