I'd agree that it is important to show the S's that we can fill their needs, especially if that is a 180 for you. Think the DB secret is to do stuff they like/need but at the same time not be clingy to them, acting like we have our own fun independent life, too. The "independent" thing gets them thinking that what if someone else might come along and find us attractive at some point. Not that we are doing that, but that it could be a future possiblity. The filling needs and acting attractive part reawakens their loving feelings toward us. Kind of like an experiment to see how much of each works in your sitch. Maybe keep up w. giving the rubs/favors when she asks- but not offering them on your own at every possible opp. I know, it is a dance- but I think you are getting the hang of it! That's great OM is intimidated- all the sooner he can leave the picture, right!!! Maybe give some thought to new, exciting things you can do on your own that would interest W- something to make you seem enticing. What is she interested in? Something that you can take up, and maybe even do with others or for others as well? Often gives WAS's a wake up call when they see us doing really fun stuff that they like with others rather than them. May make her want to be the one to do whatever it is with you, then!

Master the self-fulfilling prophecy.. Act 'as if' it's going to happen and make it be!!