I was going to send this to my wife, but thought better to post here.
Hi Wife! I know this is unexpected, but I just wanted to tell you that the last two weeks have given me some time to re-evaluate my past actions. If it's just me, I wouldn't want us to break up. But I understand it's what you want and I'm not going to fight it anymore. I do hope though that we can work on maintaining a harmonious communication for the kids. If there is anything you wanted to talk to about regarding them, please do not hesitate to contact me any time. Hope all is well
Well said Azzork. Strongr, actions speak louder than words. Anytime you feel like saying something, see if you can communicate it through actions instead. Oftentimes that's a LACK of action. Or actions focused on YOU.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
I am working on it and starting at step one again. Just so that I get this down right.
Let me ask, my wife's Father's Death Anniversary is coming up. I want to be respectful and let her know that I am aware of it and that in my own way to him paying respect. Is this ok to do?
Good morning. I did pay my respect to him and move on with my day.
Unfortunately, my wife were teasing each other and I crossed a line by bringing up her past ex and she become livid and told me that I wasn't getting the kids anymore and to go home. I told her no and that I would go to the mothers house a wait. Well sadly her mother called the police on me. The Police said I am not doing anything wrong and didn't do anything wrong, but to best position myself to the courts is to leave. I did and the Officer assured me that his statements will reflect my doing everything right, but because a third Party (MIL) called the had to come.
My wife eventually texted me and apologized for things getting out of hand and said she was sorry and requested that we try again next weekend for visitation. Well I am in the process of having the Lawyer petition for full custody of my kids. I think wife is trying to smooth things over so that we don't go to court. She doesn't have money and maybe her mom got her a lawyer, but I don't care anymore. I didn't do anything wrong, but should of stayed away from any bs teasing each other with her.
Damn, this is out of control and I think since it's been only about 6 weeks of separation things are still extremely raw and sensitive.
I am just blown away that my wife can't see that her mother is a problem blocking any sort of amicable breakup or seeing of my kids. My wife had to apologize to her good friend a couple of weeks ago. I had my kids stay over and I thought it would be Great if I brought my boys to her friends boys place since the boys are all friends and have been asking to see them. Well wifes friend shared photos of the boys all having a Great time, but MIL decides to FB attack wifes friend by calling her and saying we know who are real friends are. Proceeds to call her out on a separate line by saying "I meant you blank blank (her name).
Wife eventually says mom didn't mean it in a bad way and friend misunderstood it and that MIL meant it lovingly. She wasn't buying the explanation. Wife then says she sorry to friend and then apologizes again for her mom.
I don't want to give up on relationship, but have to be all about my boys.
Gosh this is insane, where did her love go and why is she like this?
