Hi TLEE, good to see you posting some more again. I agree with the others about the online journal, and it may be time to let that one go. After all, do you really want to be sharing stuff like that with her when she's in a R with someone else? I can see that if may feel like a slender thread connecting you with her. But it also allows her to feel she still has you on the hook. She can keep you in some way and she also gets to keep OM.

If she says to you....oh I decided to stop posting...maybe you could say something like - yes, probably a good idea. I'm pretty busy now & don't have much time for journaling like that....and then just leave it and let the contact die right down. Remember the pursuit and distance dynamic? If your W knows right where you are (through your journal) she doesn't have to pursue at all does she? But if she doesn't know where you are or what you are doing....or who with.....well.....??

Last edited by Sotto; 09/06/15 07:28 AM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus