WAH, in the thick of divorce (pt 3)

[asitis]

I've been amazed how hearing what they say and surprising them by not being defensive or critical can really cause them to open up. With most Ss, they really do want to connect with us. They are attached to us, but our dynamics, their issues, and their perceptions of us based on what they believe they know about us gets in their way. It doesn't mean that we can just turn them on to this desire and let things develop. They have a lot of sorting through their own issues, and may never allow themselves to do this. Still, I'm glad you got some positive reinforcement to the cooperative approach.

Sounds like a lot of fun w/ the S.