Quote: Rottzilla, I think you were right on the money.
AWESOME!
I think my H is going through the same things right now. He is very uncomfortable with looking into my eyes. I think I have been too pushy. Giving him kisses in the morning and trying to find ways for him to hold my hand. Even after my admonishment yesterday by Betsey, I still did it a few times -tried to subject him to my will.
It's going to be hard now, but I think we both have to let them come to us. We are so close and having such a great time with them as friends, it's difficult to believe they aren't feeling anything for us. But I wonder if they are. Perhaps they still have that wall up and even are blocking their feelings from themselves. Then, when this foreign, alien emotion comes up on them, they are confused and scared because they don't recognize it through the haze and fog that has surrounded their thinking.
It's like one of my old journal entries. I came home from work and H gave me a long, warm hug. Held me and talked to me. I went to do dishes, he came in and gave me another hug, and a kiss on top of the head. He smiled, joked, etc. Just a few minutes later, literally, I went into the bedroom and gave him a hug. His arms hung at his side and I felt cold. It was infuriating. But I learned my lesson. He always iniatiates contact now, except for the kisses I was giving him. Going to stop those now.
Still, you are in a really good place... have a wonderful day! Meow.
