I understand what you are saying and it makes 100% counterintuitive sense. My problem is that now that they are back, if I want to see my kids I have to communicate with my wife. I will not hug her or tell her she is beautiful anymore. I will just smile and be cordial.
I took my kids for a nice overnight trip to a nice hotel for one night and two days. We had a great time. I have to focus on making my R with them better. They are really confused and think that it must be me that has done something very bad in order for their mother to do this to our family, pretty much their exact words. Its a very tough sitch. They are not comfortable speaking about it at all, I cant even really bring it up to them. I don't know if W has been speaking with them or not but for sure they way they see her treating me has a huge impact on them. I will keep working on me and being the best Dad that I can given the circumstances but the chips are stacked against me.
M: 48 W: 45 Married: 16 years D1-14, D2-11, D3-9 BD: May 29 She moved out 2 weeks later with kids Awaiting mediation
