1. Letting go of control and accepting things better. I'm doing this by stepping back and looking at things from other's perspective. By just controlling the way I react, I can effect changes. 2. I'm trying to get better organized. 3. Forgiving myself and letting go of the past. 4. I'm working on taking my walls down and not reacting with anger. If I'm hurt, I will respond calmly and not strike out verbally. Defending myself in this way only hurts others and result in more hurt for me.
So....these are good in concepts as things to work on. But they are very tough to measure. How will you know in a week or a month if you have "let go of control" or "taken your walls down"? I would recommend that you try to think of concrete, measurable targets that you can set for yourself so. That you will KNOW if you've succeeded. Things like: - I will not speak to my H in an elevated tone. - if I get angry, I will take a 10 second pause or walk away until I'm calm. - I will organize xxx room or xxx drawer - I will not bring up events of more than a week ago.
And so on. The more specific and measurable you make them, the easier it is to know if you've succeeded!
