I just read your thread and I'm so sorry about the pain and suffering you have been through and have to deal with.
You received some great advice from many, so I just want to add one remark about your WAW and her anger when you discuss assets and money. From your description of her, it's because it's her priority in life. It's what means something to her, and it's what she's willing to fight for. It's as simple as that. It has nothing to do with you, so don't take it personally.
People often focus on something in their life, it's what they become successful at. She's got a high paying job, she's looking for rich men, she is aggressive in the settlement of assets. It all adds up to a person who has made money a priority in her life, at the cost of other things. I sincerely hope you will find someone down the road who shares your ideals and priorities in life.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17