Thank you all. Be friends and no expectations.. got it. Pretty much as ive been doing and no plans on changing that now. I did not mention it again tonight wondered if he would so I followed his lead.
Part of the reasons he mentioned for breaking things off with her was her lack of moving more towards him rather than staying in her marriage. There had been talk of her relocating here when we first started this back in april. He was not seeing progress towards that and had not been seeing her very much in the time that we have been going thru all this. I had stated this earlier in my posts.
I actually said to him that she probably only liked it when they were cheating behind my back and that game was over when he moved out. Not very nice of me I know but there could be a bit of truth to it.
He stated that " she has become less of an issue since he had moved out and that it had the opposite effect on him where she is concerned."
He stated " now or the reasons he left now are different and theyre changing as time goes by, he is seeing and missing some things and thankful hes out for some others. " this I can relate to as I know our home needs some tlc and he gets some anxiety over it when he is here.
He stated that he liked the effort being made by me towards our "coffee" making more like when we were kids ( my 180 ) and he likes that " alot " and he also likes my appearance "alot" since weight loss and looking nicer and making more of an effort with wardrobe choices. This too I can relate too. It kind of makes him look shallow but I appreciate his honesty and encouraging my efforts in these areas... lets face it the truth needs to be told and heard.
Lastly he stated " he sees no reason to change the way things are right now and that we will figure this all out eventually ". I agreed that no sudden changes with what we are presently doing. Im not ready for that either.
I was hoping to hear that he decided that he was madly in love with me and that was his reasons for the break up. I know big expectations right? Thats probably why im feeling a little conflicted too.
I think I may be making an impact on him but he doesnt want to lead me on in anyway at this time. He shared some positives which im grateful to hear. At least ive got an indication ive got his attention at the very least.
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
