I keep trying to fool myself that we can be "friends" and it feels good being able to talk with her, but then I always bottom out after a day or two of NC. Which tells me I'm not detached yet. From her perspective, no idea why she seems to want the NC lately, since she was all about being good friends that first few weeks. Once I cut off the money supply, her interest went away, so my best guess is she was only using me to get what she wanted, and no longer sees a point. Hurts to think it, but that's reality and I need to accept it.
Boy does this sound familiar. You're sitch, i havent read the whole thing yet, sounds like how mine went too. WW started living with OM immediately after she moved out. I know the feeling of how just any contact with her makes you feel so good and like you can do anything that day. But then after a day or 2 of NC, its like [censored]. and you bottom out. We went so far as face timing each other during the first 6months!
As far as why she wants NC...honestly...after a year of this...theres no explanation. It depends on her ridiculous moods. Some days she's gonna be all about dwh and then her attention span will go back to OM.
After a year of this..i think i wish i was stronger and didnt cater to her when she wanted to talk and just "be friends." Because i feel like i weened her off of me, if that makes sense. if you just go with the NC and she starts to get frustrated, probably a good thing to just say i cant be friends while your living with OM. I wish i did that. Some others did do that, i.e. Mozza, but in the end...the results are what they are.
Id keep encouraging you to detach, which I'm still not, but seriously its the only way.
ME: 28 W: 24 M: 2.5yrs T: 5yrs BD: 22 SEP 14 W Leaves: 5 OCT 14
