You know, I need to feel needed. I have a need to be helpful to people. I love the feeling I get when I have a friend who depends on me and I come through for them.
Have you needed your wife lately? I am not saying to be needy, but have you had a situation where she can view you as the 'nice friend with a problem' where she can swoop in and be the hero? Perhaps a complicated issue at work? Something like that... Just a thought.
Laurie told me to let my H be in control some times. I never thought I was controlling and figured she just said that to everyone as we hadn't even talked about control issues. Then I realized, if she says it to everyone, it's because everyone has the same need-to be needed themselves.
So, I am letting my H arrange an outing with some friends. I just know he will botch it as he is a procrastinator and it requires getting tickets to go to a comedy club, but he has told me several times he is having fun and I am so glad I took her advice. I make sure to tell him how I think he is doing a great job and lots of positives.
