On to Part V.

[dwh15]

Sounds to me like your WW was having trouble with OM when she wrote those entries about possibly getting back together with you. I think it's common for a WW in that situation. Mine does the same sort of stuff. Any time she's having a fight with OM or things not going well, she starts posting quotes on FB talking about what could have been, etc. She sometimes likes to put pictures out there of us as a family. But it never lasts, since they make up in a day or two, then it's back to lights out. The level and frequency of their arguments is so intense that I'm sure it won't last. They've only been together a few months; I don't think the two of us even had an argument for over a year after we started dating.

These A relationships are obviously toxic, and will die a slow, painful death, but the question becomes, how long do you wait, and what will WW do after? Just because it ends with OM doesn't mean the path is clear for R. WW may move to yet another OM, or just decide to be single for a while. Or even if she does want to work on your M, is she willing to do the hard work on herself to make lasting changes? Finally, do you think you can honestly forgive her and eventually trust her again? Only you can say when you have reached your own personal limit and are ready to move on. I would say to take your time, don't cave to pressure from friends and family, and make sure you are ready.

It's a difficult decision, but one we will all face at some point. Know that you are not alone and we are all pulling for you to have a happy life, regardless of what you decide.