A piece of advise: If W is earning more than you, you can petition for some spousal support so that you can maintain the same standard of living you had pre-D. That's on top of child support if S18 wants to live with you full time. At least those are the laws in my jurisdiction. Make sure your lawyer gets you all that you deserve.

W will be totally freaked out by that reality if that's the case in your jurisdiction. But hey, what does she expect? She really did choose this without appreciating all the consequences. Time for a bit of reality, a bite of reality.

I don't mean to be spiteful or vengeful, but she made her bed, and now has to sleep in it. You deserve every benefit available to you by law. Don't sell yourself short. This is business. Let the psychologists worry about the emotional parts. The lawyers and accountants need to look out for your best interests going forward.

You will be ok.

Last edited by PeterV2; 09/04/15 11:10 PM.
M: 59 W: 53
M: 9 yrs
T: 14 yrs
No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine)
W moved out 11/18/2013
D-Day 12/14/2013
W moved back home 12/1/2014