My WW loves her OOM

[dwh15]

Zeus has some great thoughts, and I don't want him to take it like we are beating him up. He's just taking a little tougher stance than some. I agree that it's best for the LBS to really try and let go of the old M. Detachment from the WAS is key to rebuilding a healthy, positive life. What I don't agree with is making the assumption that it's over, done for good, and no chance of ever being with WAS again. To me, that kills hope completely and takes away incentive to want to follow all the great DB techniques. People come here because they want to save their M - end of story. Yes, we realize the odds are against us, and that DBing is really about saving ourselves, regardless of outcome with WAS.

But I believe that you need to keep a small sliver of hope alive that things can still work out. It doesn't mean that you obsess over it, or think about it 24/7. You focus on GAL, PMA, etc. but you always keep in the back of your mind that maybe, just maybe, there's a chance it might all work out. There's also a good chance it won't work out with the WAS, and we have to be willing to accept that very likely scenario. But keeping that hope alive provides the motivation to start and keep making changes, especially early in our stories. As time passes, maybe we start to move away from that mindset, but I don't think there is any one "right" way to proceed. We must all do what works the best for us in our unique life and sitch.