Well... I can just imagine all your replies - but...I don't have a lawyer. The first 6 months it was all about H "needing space" The "D" word has never been mentioned Last March he said he wants to sell our cottage so he can buy his own house and "get on with his life" I have had 2 free consultations with lawyers. One of who said he couldn't help me because I "wasn't ready for this"