Well I had another DB misstep tonight... OK, two. W seemed pretty mad at me I didn't say anything to her at the AP among other things. I sent her a text saying I wanted nothing more than to give her a big hug when I saw her. Tonight I picked up our 3 G's from a friends house to take them for ice cream. W was there. When she left I opened her car door and gave her a big hug. I couldn't help it. She seemed a little surprised but hugged back, maybe to avoid an uncomfortable situation for the kids I don't know. It felt really good. Damn I miss her.
Sandi nailed it (as usual, please listen to these folks). There is a Withdrawl you need to go through here. It is the physical and emotional dependency you have on your wife. Guess what, right now she has already made it through this 'phase'. You will have to take a deep breath and think about that...she does not WANT that connection, physically or emotionally from you right now. It may take some time for this to really sink in, there are plenty of things folks are going to be dumping on you and they are all important to understand and start to practice.
This one is BIG, she needs space from you right now and if you do not give it, you will only drive her farther away.
