Zues, while you have some valid points and great analogies, your opinions are simply that, opinions.
Give the man Hope, give him a hand, don't tell him its all over because quite frankly YOU don't know that.
The OM can backaway, his wife can change ans see things differently through her program, etc., etc. Only GOD knows the outcome.
Have Faith and hope Sorgan. I KNOW THINGS WILL GET BETTER! Because we went through similar situations and I am a happier and more confident, independent because of all of this.
In the bible there are MANY verses on Faith, Hope and LOVE Which we all need when we are in this terrible situation, I am praying for you and your family Sorgan.