Hi Shodan, wel she's not 'all in' from what you post. She's in contact with OM, she's being defensive, she's telling lies, being critical of you. For all of those reasons, I don't think you should be pressing ahead too far either. Why would you want a R on that basis?

Has she agreed to actually send a NC letter to OM? If she willingly does that, I think it is a step forward. I also think she needs to sign up to letting you know of any further contact - or maybe taking steps to forward anything else into a mutual box that you both have access to.

The thing that seemed to make a difference in your sitch was you being willing to be all done and look for appts etc. That seemed to shock her back in - but she sounds a way off - 'what will it take for us to repair this; I'll do anything....' And is anything less than that okay for you?

Hopefully a vet will stop by and give you some better advice than I can though....take care xx

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